‘An essential book for any childcarer’
Jean Wildenson – Childcare Director
“A perfectly structured bible for raising healthy children. The content is vastly diverse and exquisitely formatted for quick and simple referencing. With a child of my own on the way I am delighted to have ONE book that covers all aspects of child rearing!”
-Ash Lorraway (Published Poet and expecting father)
Cherie presents a well researched and entertaining read, which appeals to both new and experienced parents. It presents a broad range of content interspersed with anecdotes and provides a light hearted and thorough read.
Andy Millet 3rd year med student
We all know that being a good parent is very challenging.
Hoping for some reassurance, guidance and knowledge on parenting your child? Well then look no further; this is the book for you. I will offer you practical skills, techniques, solid solutions and information you will need to give you the confidence to raising Healthy Happy Children.
This book takes on a holistic approach, looking at all aspects of children’s development.
The material is presented in a user-friendly way and in a language that is short, quick and to the point. If you choose not to read through the entire chapter, simply read the subject that interests you.
Read it you won’t regret it.The use of the term he throughout this book, is intended, to be interpreted as, he and/or she.
Cherie has always desired to work with children. To this end, she has attained the following qualifications with over ten year’s experience:
Certificate 3 in Children’s Services
Senior First Aid Certificate
Certificate of Attendance (Child Protection)
Volunteering with disabled children.
To confirm her own observations and for further in-depth information Cherie interviewed teachers, parents, child psychologists, first-aid instructors, child speech therapists and medical practitioners. Cherie also studied many books by child theorists.
She ran her own toddler room program from the CSIRO in Sydney.
While working with children she also conducted experiments, closely studying, on a first hand basis, the process of children learning.
Her poem called ‘Love’ was published by Auckland Press for a book called Lost in Thought; An Anthology of Verse.
She is a former member of the Nerang Writers’ Group and is currently a member of an organisation on the Gold Coast called the Screen Theatre And wRiters Studios (S.T.A.R.S. – www.starsgc.com) which is actively supported by a number of well known authors and filmmakers.
Cherie continues to work with children on a daily basis.
1. A good helping of love
2. Patience! Plenty of patience
3. A GOAL-for your child; to become confident, happy, secure, healthy and independent
4. A background knowledge of children’s ages and stages of development.
1. Mix ingredients well; combined with hope, hard work, determination and love.
This simple recipe for success is what turns our children into ‘Happy, Healthy Children’.
IN THE following chapters we will enter and explore the secret world of children. We will look at the 10 keys of positive behaviour management, find out how children learn, and develop through the 9 stages of development and play, look at health and nutrition made EASY through the ages and much more.
READ A SAMPLE FROM WITHIN THE BOOK:
Social and emotional development is so closely interrelated that they are referred to as just one area of development. Some people may label this as ‘socio-emotional’ development.
Before entering this chapter let’s take a look at the definitions of social development and emotional development for a clearer understanding of this developmental area.
Refers to, the ability of getting along with others in a social setting. This includes learning to relate and interact with other children and be culturally acceptable to others. It involves embracing the fact that we are all different, yet we are the same. Whether this be race, gender, abilities, disabilities or family socio-economic status.
Emotional development is learning to control feelings and express these in a socially acceptable manner. As you can see, the two domains work closely together. The whole concept of feelings and learning to control these and express them is linked to social acceptance of these emotions.
At birth, your infant emerges from your womb where he has resided for the past nine months in an environment that was small, safe and secure. He has now entered the big wide world. This is quite an exciting and scary adventure for your baby! From the first few moments after birth social development has started. Earth is such a different world from the one he has lived in. He has to adjust to the feel, sight and sound of his new environment. He shows interest in his immediate surroundings and begins to develop a sense of self.
The first phase of social-emotional development is establishing relationships.
The moment an infant looks into the face of his parents; his brain will make an important connection, that is, that you are a very special and important person in his life. Once children establish relationships they learn to trust. ‘Can I trust this new world? Can I trust myself to have an effect on these people and environment?’ Their development is influenced by many factors.
¨ Their environment
¨ Their parents or caregivers and the infants’ individual temperaments.
Without a trusting relationship, infants cannot create the emotional base needed for future development.
Ways in which to build trusting relationships with your infant is to show affection to him. Ensure this by stroking him gently, or try some baby massage techniques. Hold and respond to your baby’s needs. This is an important ingredient to building a strong healthy bond. It instils and fosters feelings of security and trust. Each time your baby cries, respond sensitively and immediately. This helps him to trust himself – if he cries he causes an effect. That is, you answer to his needs. Crying is infant’s system of communication.
Perhaps you might find this point of view to be that we are ‘spoiling’ our children if we constantly remain attentive and respond immediately to their cries. You might hold the concept that letting your child ‘cry it out’ whilst in his crib, instils a sense of independence and strength within your child – as Dr. Spock believes. I find this concept unacceptable and far from the truth. How theorists came up with such a belief rather puzzles me. In fact extensive research and work performed by Erik Erikson and psychologist John Bowlby, both reveal with great conviction, that tuning into your child’s needs and responding immediately to their cries fosters a sense of trust, strength and emotional security. This leads to a healthy sense of independence later in early life.
Trust is he second phase of social-emotional development. Babies at this stage develop deep feelings of confidence and comfort because their basic needs are met promptly, consistently and lovingly.
Baby’s behaviour, which shows trust developing:
¨ Contentment (allow for temperament differences)
¨ Able to be soothed
¨ Over time baby develops a sleeping and eating pattern
¨ Confidence to explore, once mobile
¨ Shows curiosity and keen interest in the environment
¨ Begins to show preferences for certain people
¨ Self motivated
¨ Smiles, chuckles and laughs
Your infant’s temperament
In the 1970s two psychologists, Alexander Thomas and Stella Chess performed in-depth investigations on infants and children. They found nine different aspects of temperament that influence infant and child behaviour, then categorised these temperaments into three groups.
¨ Easy temperament
¨ Slow to warm up (cautionary temperament)
¨ Difficult temperament
The child may be born with these temperaments, or could be formed because of hereditary or genetic reasons. Let’s now look at these temperaments in detail.
This baby is as the category suggests. Easy!
Your infant is in pretty much in a good mood. Calm, predictable, undemanding and approaches most experiences in a positive way. Baby lives on a regular schedule. This little one has an average intensity and activity level. Baby responds slowly and mildly to hunger and other discomforts and usually finds a way to soothe himself.
Important tips for parents of easy babies
It is extremely rewarding having an easy child. These children self-soothe and are quiet when distressed, so it is important to look for signs of your child's discomfort, i.e. facial expressions. It’s important to stimulate your child by including lots of one-on-one interaction. It helps build a strong, supportive relationship between baby and you.
Slow to warm up temperament
The baby that falls under this category seems to come off as the shy child.
Your ‘slow to warm up child’ may reject or withdraw from new things. Baby seems to take a hesitant and cautionary approach to his surrounding environment. He is quite mild mannered and may find difficulty with changes.
Important tips for parents of the ‘slow to warm up’ babies
Your child will need plenty of positive encouragement and patience as you help your child to adapt to the environment. Give your baby time.
LET’S REMEMBER: THIS CHILD DOES BEST IF NOT HURRIED, AND GIVEN TIME TO THINK ABOUT THE SITUATION.
The difficult temperament
This child is feisty!
These babies engage in an almost constant state of physical activity.
Baby is very demanding on his parents. He responds vigorously to hunger, and is hard to soothe. His crying is intense and very loud. Unfortunately, he does not know the effect of his crying on his parents – all he knows is that he is miserable!
Important tips for parents of the difficult temperament
As a parent of this child, you may develop feelings of guilt and or inadequacy because you find it difficult to soothe your child. It is important to remember: YOU ARE A FANTASTIC PARENT! You picked up this book didn’t you?
It’s best to focus on protecting children from upsetting things, as these children find it very difficult to deal with their emotions.
They key is to be:
Understand that nurturing and caring for your infant in a positive manner, is difficult for the parent of a child with a difficult or challenging temperament. Remember – soft voice, smiles, hugs and consistency is the winning combination for working with this child. Though it may be hard, you can do it!
Here is some news we can use:
As babies with different temperaments approach one year, many characteristics disappear.
Great news for the parents with children of difficult temperaments!
The nine factors important to your child’s temperament:
¨ Activity level
¨ Rhythmicity or regularity
¨ Approach and withdrawal
¨ Attention span
¨ Sensory threshold
 (The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care, By Dr. Benjamin Spock, Publisher Duell Sloane & Pearce, 1946.)
 (Childhood and Society, by Erik Erikson, Publisher WW Norton & Co 1951)
 (Child Care and the Growth of Love, by John Bowlby, Publisher London: Penguin Books 1953)
 (Temperament in Clinical Practice, by Alexander Thomas and Stella Chess, Publisher The Guilford Press, 1995)
Click on the cart below to purchase this book:
Prices in Australian Dollars CURRENCY
(c)2008 Zeus Publications All rights reserved.