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Author Biography
Foreword: I really would prefer to remain behind the scenes as much
as possible in
Biography: The author comes from an
engineering background but has also studied some psychology subjects at
university. Despite the complexity of
engineering designs each part of the design process can be broken down into a
series of rational and experimentally verifiable steps. In this way something
complicated can be studied using simple logic. Psychology, as a science has
tried to emulate engineering but generally fails because the process of getting
from the complexity that is the human brain to something that is rational and
experimentally verifiable is in itself far too complicated and prone to
distortion by the preconceived ideas of the experimenter. The author has tried to
blend engineering and psychology by using computers as an analogy for the human
brain. Very few people understand the complexities of computers down to the
nanotechnology they employ yet most can use them because programmers have
simplified the process by inventing computer languages which allow people to
utilise these machines without getting bogged down in the complexity of their
design and manufacture. Writing about these ideas
has taken about thirty years. The author lives in South
East Queensland, is married and has three children. In order not to embarrass
them too much she would prefer to keep her name under wraps.
CHAPTER 1 (part sample)
John Bache didn’t much like the Beatles in the ’60s, he
much preferred the Stones. Satisfaction
was ‘the’ song that seemed to sum things up for him. However the Beatles had
one ability that absolutely fascinated him. It was their ability to get girls to
swoon. Newsreels of the aftermath of their concerts in the ’60s showed the area
in front of the stage littered with the bodies of unconscious females. Police
were there, armed with smelling salts, bringing them back to life. John reasoned
that it would solve a lot of his problems with women if he could make one swoon
but learning to play the guitar and becoming a famous rock star seemed like a
lot of trouble to have to go to. John decided to look for a short cut by trying
to find the triggers for this swooning behaviour.
The closest he came to realising his ambition in this
area was quite by accident. He was in grade 9 at High School, standing on parade
one morning when it seemed as if his horizontal hold went haywire. When the dust
settled he found that a tall grade-10 girl standing directly behind him had
fainted right on top of him. He had automatically tried to stay upright but her
weight had forced him to the ground. He had to wait for the unfortunate girl’s
friends to lift her off him before he could stand.
It wasn’t unheard of for somebody to faint on parade,
unusual but not unique. What was suspiciously coincidental was that John knew
this girl, not by name but certainly by sight. In those days grade 9’s didn’t
socialise with grade 10’s so John didn’t know her name but this particular young
lady was very tall for her age and this had led John to taunt her about it. In
behaviour that today would be condemned as a form of bullying John used to
compare her to a character on the Addams
Family by going up to her and saying that he was Lurch-ified. Perhaps she
had only pretended to faint on him to get even but there was always the
tantalising possibility that somehow his behaviour had caused her to swoon. If
so he only wished he could figure out what the instinctive trigger was so he
could duplicate the process on a girl he was really keen on.
John had not always been confused by women. When he was
very young he would make friends with girls and get along with them quite
naturally. His mother would often tease him about his girlfriends. However
little girls eventually become corrupted by what they are told. Stories such as
fairy tales where the beautiful young princess is carried off by a handsome
prince to his grand palace. In these stories the girls don’t do anything much
except look beautiful. The handsome prince fights any dragons that need to be
seen off and then organises the castle while all the princess does is get waited
on hand and foot. This was probably the reason John found girls increasingly
difficult to approach, as he got older. They were no longer prepared to meet him
on an equal footing rather it came down to two different modes of behaviour.
Either it was a case of them being overawed by a ‘dashing prince’ or ‘rock star’
or more usually having the likes of John being in awe of them because of their
womanly beauty. If the latter was the case the way to a woman’s heart was to be
found by working hard and then dazzling her with the fruits of his labours.
John thought that both of these alternatives involved a
lot of work on his part. Becoming a rock star for example was no easy matter and
it didn’t end with just ‘becoming’ a star. It seemed to John that in order to
keep a woman under such circumstances he would have to remain a star for the
foreseeable future. All this seemed like a lifetime of slogging your guts out.
The ‘hard working fruits of his labours’ option also looked like it involved a
lot of effort on his part as well. There had to be an easier way.
There were exceptions though. When he was in grade 7
and walking home one afternoon he found that he was not alone. Walking beside
and talking to him was Elaine, a beautiful little blonde. She was bright too,
the Dux of the year in most exams and now she was spending time with John.
Wonders will never cease. It appeared to John that perhaps the girl wanted to be
friends with him. That would make a nice change from the rest of the girls who
seemed to want nothing to do with him.
The next day things took a turn for the worst
unfortunately. When John approached Elaine at school she snubbed him. She was
talking to a friend and the prospect of making conversation with a boy in front
of another girl was far too embarrassing. She had broken the cardinal rule,
which called for girls never to make the first move. It was up to the boy to do
the chasing. John did not dwell on this turn of events much and just assumed
that Elaine had merely changed her mind about him. He took this snub as the end
of a promising if short friendship and tried not to mull over it too much.
John had not read the same script as the girls. He did
not believe in fighting dragons or other men for a woman. He believed that women
should make their own free choice as to whom they wanted and not be the prize in
a contest or something that could be bought with the ‘fruits of his labours’. He
also believed that women should behave as equals and when it came to who made
the first move it should not matter and would preferably involve moves from both
parties. What a poor naive little prat he was.
Two years later in High School John happened to bump
into the little blonde again and greeted her. He then found himself on the end
of a tongue lashing for mispronouncing her surname: something that apparently
had been overlooked previously in the four odd years they had known each other.
John quite naturally thought she had flipped her tiny blonde lid but he was to
find that his type of behaviour was typical of would-be romantic encounters he
would have with girls over the next 10 to 15 years. What was happening was that
he was following the natural advice given to him by his instincts while the
girls he met behaved in accordance to the way they had been taught. Australian
women of the late ’60s and early ’70s were a strange bunch. On the one hand they
were forbidden by their own code from approaching a boy but they had a set of
instincts that were relentlessly pushing them in this direction. Elaine had
dared on the one occasion to blatantly ignore the restrictions of this social
code but had soon been pulled back into line. However there were other more
socially acceptable methods by which a girl could arrange a meeting with a boy
they wished to get to know. One of these methods was to organise a party and
invite the male victim. This was a very round about way of doing things and as
such was prone to slip-ups.
In year 10 a girl in John’s class got her parents to
organise a party to which all the class was invited. John had tried to make
advances on her earlier in the year but had been rejected and then been
subjected to a flurry of kicks to the shins as a way of emphasising the point.
The girl had later changed her mind but it was not as easy as just coming up to
John and asking him out. No, that would never do, hence the party.
For weeks she practiced spinning a bottle, finding out
just how much effort needed to be put into it to get it to stop at the place she
wanted it to. ‘Spin the Bottle’ was one of those seemingly innocent games that
were deemed acceptable for young teens, so that when John found himself seated
in a circle he thought little of it. However the little shin kicker was about to
pounce. She got her turn to spin and was able to get the bottle to point
directly at John. Then she leant over and planted a kiss on his lips with the
passion of somebody who had been dreaming about this moment for months. John was
not prepared for the effect this would have on him and was quite dazed by the
time he took the bottle and spun it. This time it stopped quite at random,
pointing at the girl’s younger sister.
Unfortunately for John, he was so worked up by the
first kiss that he gave the young girl a kiss with plenty of tongue: not really
appropriate in the circumstances. The girl was not amused and when she voiced
her disapproval neither was the shin kicker or the other people at the party.
John’s admirer now found that instead of getting herself a boyfriend she had
instead created a paedophile.
The embarrassing incident tore the shin kicker apart
emotionally. Instinctively she still wanted John but on the philosophical side
she could not justify this desire. In her mentally-tortured state the confusion
caused her to give herself to other boys with whom she had no emotional
attachment. A classmate told John that she was taking on all comers down the
back of the oval. It wasn’t until John got to university that the shin kicker
worked up the courage to approach him directly. Early in his first year he went
to the refractory one day for lunch to find her standing beside the entrance
door where he could not possibly fail to notice her. Unfortunately by this time
John was so sick of the stress she had caused him over the years that he simply
ignored her.
The kissing incident had confused John as well and
similar misunderstandings are common in adolescence. This confusion can lead to
a build up of stress within both boys and girls, sometimes with devastating
consequences. John’s younger brother was one of the victims. Tim’s stress levels
surfaced as aggression. He kept getting into fights at school and eventually he
was placed into a mental hospital where he was pumped full of drugs. He changed
within a matter of weeks from a lean, lively boy into a dazed, fat blob. The
drugs he was prescribed dulled his senses but to John’s mind did not solve the
actual problem. Tim was having girl problems, nothing more, nothing less. Now he
was a dazed, fat blob with girl problems.
John did not like the medical solution to his brother’s
issues so when he felt the effects of similar stresses in himself he looked for
another way around them. He came to the conclusion that the philosophy he had up
until then was inadequate. He felt that if he had a different way of approaching
the issues he would be able to be content without the need to take mind-altering
drugs for the rest of his life. Therefore he decided to scrap the philosophy he
had inherited from his parents together with the Christian-based ideas he had
been taught by his teachers and society in general. In its place he would build
a philosophy from the ground up, based on the instincts that Nature had
provided.
Ahead lay the loneliest three years of his life. You
may think that having a drink in a deserted pub is being alone but compared with
having no philosophy it is nothing. As John struggled to build a new philosophy
he questioned everything he had been taught and although, after much
deliberation, he generally came to a reasonably similar conclusion there were
always going to be differences. Religious beliefs for example became
unsubstantiated assumptions because Nature now became John’s only God and the
instincts that Nature had bestowed on him became his only sacred script. Still
this did not solve John’s dilemma concerning women because the problem here was
that women were listening to something other than their instincts and John had
yet to understand the implications of this.
After he started university some of John’s friends took
him to a party where he met a girl called Michelle with whom he got on well.
Unbeknown to John this girl had asked his friends to drag him along. In a
similar vein to the shin kicker’s plan this party and John’s arrival at it was
the result of a lot of planning on Michelle’s part. She had known him in High
School but because she was in a younger year than John she was unable to mix
with him. In a different era and at a different school this might not have been
a deterrent but
Michelle meanwhile was devastated. If she had put as
little thought and effort into her encounter with John as John had done she
would have been able to dismiss it as easily as he had. However she had been
intoxicated with him for years and forgetting him was going to be extremely
painful. Still she tried. She went to parties and social gatherings with her
girlfriends and dated a few eligible men but she still could not get John out of
her mind. In the end she gave up trying to forget John and instead made excuses
for his uninhibited behaviour. She had instinctively liked John’s attention and
eventually convinced herself that, like John, she could ignore her surroundings
and pretend they were alone and unnoticed if it meant being with him.
This mental struggle did not resolve itself quickly and
it was a year or so before she tried to contact John, but there was a problem.
John had taken a year off from his university studies and was wandering around
Michelle returned to the scene of the party, John’s
parents’ house, a few days later to find out why John had not phoned only to be
confronted with John’s mum. Mrs Bache had seen John’s scandalous display in the
pool but instead of blaming her little boy she took out her distaste on the
wanton woman who allowed her son to get away with it. No, Michelle couldn’t see
John. He wasn’t home and could not be contacted. Just go away and don’t come
back.
She asked his friends but they were not able to tell
her anything of John’s whereabouts. She had lowered her standards to fit in with
John’s apparent lack of moral fibre only to be treated as if she were a slut by
his mother. John had not contacted her and his mother blocked any attempt
Michelle made to contact him. The girl quite unsurprisingly thought she had been
dumped and was devastated.
During the month John was away from
Over the following decades John often wondered who that
girl was at his 21st. It all seemed like a fantastic alcohol-fuelled
dream. It was a shame he couldn’t remember her name or how to contact her.
After this monumental stuff-up things could only get
worse for John and they did. Australian women of the early ’70s were united by
the words of one Germaine Greer, a Women’s Liberationist with a unique ability
to spit venom that could kill at 20 paces. She told women that they were
repressed and being used as sex objects by men. This could only mean that it was
going to get a whole lot harder for John to find female companionship. Women
were now out for revenge and the leaders of Women’s Liberation often showed how
infidelity and sexual teasing could be used to turn men’s lives into hellholes
of sexual frustration.
However in Nature there is generally a counter-measure
that can be used for just about every dirty trick. Men had to learn these tricks
or get trampled in the dirt. During this period women took to going out with one
man and then dumping him for another in quick succession. The thinking appeared
to be that this would keep men unsettled and frustrated. This appeared to be
some kind of retaliation to compensate for the way that Women’s Libbers alleged
that men used and then dumped women. Accusing people in such a general way
usually solves very little but it was a terrific way of intensifying the
animosity between the sexes in the ’60s and ’70s.
All John wanted to do was to satisfy his sexual
instincts. That didn’t involve sex alone but was part of a set of instincts
devised by Nature that are meant to encourage people to settle down and raise
families. John quickly got sick of women mucking him around and after some
experimentation he devised a counter-measure. Click on the cart below to purchase this book:
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