Tonia Karpinska is a new writer, based in Brisbane,
Writing has been her long-time passion. Her stories have
entertained her family and friends for some time.
Tonia was born in Europe and came to
She is a teacher in a
Tonia finds it easy to find a special approach to her audience and teach people something new. She enjoys working with various age groups and organising seminars. She puts her words together in a nice, simple and not obtrusive way to tell stories and share some of her own life experiences.
Human beings are social creatures. We are looking for a partner, for love and to be loved. In our age of high technologies we sometimes find it difficult to find that someone.
Where are these nice singles?
Where do we meet them?
How do we start dating?
I have come across various books telling you how to look sexy (overly sexy), how to make eyes, how to be a great flirt, and how to get a phone number from a person you like.
But I have not spotted any books that tell how to actually carry on during your first date, what manners are appropriate, what to do, and how to make your date interested and attracted to you.
This book will try to answer these questions for you.
Nice singles are out there. It is just a matter of opening the right doors and giving yourself a chance.
Warm and trusting relationships are what we all need. And all relationships start somewhere.
Your first date is important, as this is your one and only chance to make the first impression. Psychologists have proven that it takes a very short time to make the first impression, which is usually the most correct one, as our brains perceive the information and then we start analysing what we saw. These amazing ten seconds can make it or break it. You have hardly spoken a word, but both of you already know whether or not you like what you see. Your appearance, the way you approach the person, and your manners always play a great role when you meet someone new.
Let’s talk about what makes a good impression, and how to make it, how to make the best of your looks, where to go on your first date, and what to talk about. Many of my friends went through their first dates, and said that they could not understand why those dates did not grow into long and loving experiences. I decided to research the wrongs and rights and write about it.
However, this book is not about how to be happy in the relationships. I will leave this intricate issue to family psychologists and counsellors.
This book is written to help people think about how to make their first date a success. This book is about your inner self and your appearance, and how to make them work together. I will use advice given by professionals and, of course, I will tell you stories from my own experience.
So, let me take you through some steps to make your first date successful.
Beauty is not just skin deep. Wearing beautiful clothes, make-up and jewellery will not hide any insecurities you might have. Joining the ‘club’ of singles after breaking up with someone is never easy, but nothing is impossible.
When you break up with someone, it leaves some scars. It makes you wonder if love can happen again. It is a fear you need to deal with.
Before you start looking for a new partner, you need to ‘clean up’ what is inside you. For some people it takes a couple of weeks, for others, several months or even years. But the bottom line is that you need to overcome your fears and insecurities, forgive yourself for previous mistakes and become happy with yourself.
There are many ways to become a happier person. The very first thing you should do is accept yourself for who you are and the way you are.
You may have noticed that people are attracted to enthusiastic, lively and happy people. You should become one yourself. Hardly anyone is interested in stories of hardship and failure, especially on the first date.
First of all, you should believe you are beautiful, and you should know your strengths and weaknesses. Knowing these, you know who you are and what you want.
Just remember one thing – it is not right to look for another person to make you happy. You should make yourself a happy person first, then look for a partner. There is a variety of ways to help you feel stronger and happier with yourself.
If you feel agitated you can take yoga classes. If you feel insecure about your physical appearance, consult a beautician and/or a personal trainer. Join training sessions and build the body you want – this will help your physical appearance and acceptance of yourself.
If you feel angry, sad, very unhappy and depressed, see a counsellor or a psychologist; the problem may be deeper than you think. If you feel bored and you look for a partner just to fill in some time, find yourself a hobby, rediscover your talents. Treat yourself nicely, be it a shopping session, or going to your favourite restaurant by yourself, going for a long walk on the beach, watching a good movie, going out with friends and not looking for anyone etc.
Bottom line – be happy with who you are, before you look for a partner.
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